My son Ethan is 2.5 years old and his speech is still very far behind where it ‘should’ be for his age.
It is something that worries me everyday so I wanted to share some of my thoughts with you and the journey that we have been on so far.
I don’t know about you but I have come to dread the milestone check ups with the Health Visitor teams. At Ethan’s 1 year check he scored low on every category which just added to the anxiety I was already feeling as a new mother.
At his 2 year check it was the same story with speech being one of the most worrying areas.
Friends and family have been very supportive saying things like…
“He’s a boy, they do take a bit longer to speak than girls…”
“Don’t worry, my son only talked properly when he was 3…”
”He will talk when he is ready…”
But, as I am sure you can imagine, that didn’t really help!
I have to say, we have received an amazing amount of support from the healthcare service in Jersey which I am very greatful for. We were referred to various Speech and Language courses and classes. We had continued support from the Health Visitor. And we booked in to see a Paediatrian who specialises in child development.
It was all too much. Too manly people telling me what to do. Too much pressure on me and Ethan. And all I could think about was that it was my fault.
I haven’t read enough or sung enough to him…
He watches too much TV…
I don’t play enough with him or interact in the ‘right’ way…
I haven’t taken him to enough classes or groups…
So I made the decision to scale it all back and to just listen to one person. Our Paediation recommended that we increase his hours at Nursery as the interaction with others would be very beneficial. So that’s what we did. He also tried to get me to understand that there are so many reasons as to why Ethan is taking his time to talk and it’s not to do with what I have or haven’t done. (I try to remind myself of this every day!)
Its now February and I am so pleased with the progress he has made since starting his new Nursery in September last year. He is saying quite a few more words including “Mama” and “Dada”, woohoo! He is also staying the first sounds of most words. We almost have “again” and “more” which is helping him to feel less frustrated when communicating with us.
Here he is on his first day at his new Nursery…
I was feeling confident that we were doing all that we could do and that the progress was good albeit slow. He had another assessment as school yesterday but disappointingly hasn’t progressed to the next level which has made me feel so anxious again.
We have another session with the Speech Therapist on Monday so hopefully we can talk about the progress he has made and the next steps.
Are you going through something silimar? I’d love to hear from you!
See you just now!